MODERN FATHERHOOD IS A THANKLESS JOB

This is a post that is different from the usual. However, it is worth posting because, as many are now realizing, the derogation of men and belittling of fatherhood is at the root of so many social ills. The post is copied from a Facebook post. The original is here.

Modern Fatherhood Is a Thankless Job

If you want to know what true silent suffering looks like—watch a father in 2025.

Fathers don’t just provide anymore. They sacrifice their lives, peace, and identity… and still get disrespected.

Because modern fatherhood isn’t about love. It’s about service. Duty. Disposability.

Let’s break it down:

1. The Legacy Trap

Every man’s deepest fear isn’t death—it’s raising children who don’t carry his name, his values, or his blood.

Legacy is everything. That’s why men build. That’s why men protect. That’s why men die working.

But guess what?

30% of DNA tests come back negative. And that’s just among those bold enough to check.

Do the math. If you have three kids, chances are one might not be yours.

So you’re telling me a man can work 35 years, sacrifice dreams, deny himself joy… and end up investing in another man’s sperm?

No refund. No apology. Just “thanks, Dad.”

2. Divorce Means Automatic Disconnection

Even if the children are yours, there’s still a 50% chance you’ll lose them after divorce.

The court hands her the house, the kids, the sympathy—and hands you bills, depression, and supervised weekend visits.

You become an outsider in the very family you built.

They call another man “Daddy.”

And you get Father’s Day texts… if you’re lucky.

3. Mothers Get the Spotlight, Fathers Get the Stress

The media worships motherhood.

Social platforms turn moms into superheroes for posting lunchbox ideas.

They get celebrated about 30 times around the year.

Meanwhile, the father who left the house at 5am, fought the traffic, paid the rent, almost got stabbed, survived hypertension, and came back home to loud silence? 

Zero praise.

She gets flowers for childbirth. You get bills for being the man.

4. If You’re Broke, You’re Trash.

Forget morals. Forget effort. Forget presence.

If you’re a man without money, you’re just an inconvenience—even to your kids.

The modern world respects deadbeat millionaires more than present, struggling fathers.

And when your kids grow up, guess who they take abroad?

Not the man who paid school fees.

Not even the one who bought them their first car.

It’s always the mom. She’s all deserving!

5. The Government Is Raising Your Children

Even if you stay. Even if you fight. Even if you provide. 

(Even if your wife aligns with you. 😏)

Modern fatherhood still loses.

Why?

Because the school is telling your son he might be a girl.

The media is teaching your daughter that men are predators.

TikTok is feeding them gender confusion, identity crisis, and a full menu of rebellion.

And you? You’re not allowed to say “No.”

You don’t raise your kids anymore. You sponsor them.

6. You Can’t Discipline. You Can’t Lead. You Can’t Even Speak

Try correcting your child, and you’re “toxic.”

Try setting rules, and you’re “controlling.”

Try raising your voice, and CPS might knock on your door.

So now, fathers are quiet.

Not because they’re weak—but because they’ve been silenced.

7. Society Protects Her, Not You

She cheats? It’s because you were emotionally unavailable.

She withholds sex? It’s self-care.

She takes your kids and vanishes? It’s “protecting them from trauma.”

You cheat? You’re a monster.

You complain? You’re weak.

You fight for custody? You’re unstable.

Welcome to modern fatherhood.

Conclusion: Why Do Men Still Do It?

Because men are wired to protect—even if they get destroyed doing it.

Because deep down, every real man still hopes he’ll be the exception.

But in this world?

Fatherhood is no longer a position of honor.

It’s a battlefield where you fight for children who might not be yours, in a house that’s not yours, with a woman who might not respect you—and a system that’s praying for your failure.

And yet… we still show up.

Because even in a thankless job, real fathers don’t quit.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t bleed.

Let the comment war begin.

I would love to hear the motherhood apologists spot where I am wrong this time.